Vicky donor

So i just saw the movie and no, i wont review it. Its an easy movie to review, except for the antiquated tight asses who might have found the movie disgusting but still laughed out loud watching it, am sure most liked it, enjoyed it.

And am not gonna say about how hindi movies have become technically flawless and all that...said many times (was one of the first to see it coming btw) but this one just goes to prove the point a bit more.

So one thing which was different about the movie was how the stereotypes about different regions was so portrayed in the movie. If you have lived and interacted with people from different areas, you should have experienced their weirdities first hand. Bongs r like this, punjus like that, so on. Its not true for every person, but overall quite true. 

In the movies, these weirdities have always been shown in a snide way, in a very contemptful, demeaning, n mostly slapstick stupid comedy way, but suddenly, in a couple of movies before this n for sure in this one its been portrayed in a more mature albeit still humorous way. Its part of the story, not just making fun of some poor side character actor, which was good to see!

Why suddenly was a question and I guess its just a sign of how India has been changing because of the new economy and modern jobs n businesses. More n more people are leaving their homes n working elsewhere, going out of the protection of their communities and cities n coming in contact with the so called outsiders. Take bangalore for exapmle, there seem to be more outsiders here then native kannadigans, and more n more are they interacting. I today live with a marathi n an android, n my friends include a maru, a gujju, a tamillian, a jaat n well people from everywhere.

Just saying that the new business has made India more integrateed, we used to be like how america was, not aware of the rest of the world, had these unsubstantiated ideas about diff countries. In India everyone from south was madrasi, everyone up north was a delhiet. And ofcourse both were bad! But today delhiets know that there are 7 sourthern states, n southies know that north and north indians are different from delhi n delhiets.

And the surest sign of our country actually integrating was when i saw north east people in guju land. U see them in blr quite often, but Gujarat is like the opposite side of the country. Really liked the fact that they were there n doing good jobs. Not the stereotypical waiters n beauty parlor girls. Dont take me wrong, they ventured out 10 years ago to mostly bangalore, n now have gained enough confidence to start working in the main stream. They are still not accepted, but another then years n one of the most cut off arms of the country won't be so!

Anyways, I need to learn how to be conscise n not ramble on, but am not writing my best anyways so its ok. Bear with me.

Another thing which was different was how the girl (very pretty, n a good actress) was shown as a divorcee n how it was handled in the movie. Well frankly, all the families were real, they were not the ideal happy indian family, neither were they the convoluted political k serial families, they were real families, which dont think has been shown in commercial indian flicks, in arty farty movies yes but not here. And another thing which is quite personal is alliances between different communities, bong n punju in this case. Something i have lived through, something which was always looked down upon but maybe thats changing.

I dont know whether the movies are portraying the societal changes or the movies are leading them, I wouldn't say that our society has changed n become more liberal n accepting, or that we have super progressionist film makers, think its one foot leading the other n both moving forward…in any case its a good development for this country.

Someday we will actually become and integrated India!!!

Cheers to that, laters!


PS: and although the male version of has become really famous, I like the female version more...can't find a good video version online so heres the original!!

thoughts and ramblings

there has suddenly been a lot of focus on introverts...a book, a TED video, a question asked and many conversations. I am an introvert (always knew it, and retook the test as well, 100% introversion is what it says), but most people are surprised when I tell them that. Am very good at public speaking, and I have lots of acquaintances (820 of them if u go by my FB friends list) plus am known to conduct parties and social events and stuff...so how can I be an introvert. Well there you go, you don't understand introversion. Its different from being shy and quiet, its all about where you get your energy from. If you get it from inside you, you are an introvert. If your ideas excite  you more, if living in your own mind and your own small little world makes you peaceful, you are an introvert. signs of introversion, you feel suffocated after you have been in a crowd for some time, after every conversation with someone (esp if they are like 2 - 3 other people) you wanna go back to you shell and recuperate, because conversations are energy sapping for you. If your own ideas excite you more then talking to someone else, you are an introvert.

So that said, is it a bad thing? from my point of view introverts are finely balanced, they are quite self dependent for their ideas and all, and so come up with original out there stuff, which I don't see a lot of extroverts doing. Secondly, since they are not really shy, they are able to propagate these ideas and work in teams. Its just that sometimes its socially awkward for a group of extroverts to work / party with introverts, because introverts kind of are quite observing kinds, and so sap out the energy out of work meetings, parties et al. But I am a part of a very extrovert group, both at work and home, and they have gotten used to it. The other thing about introversion is we stay quite only with people we consider strangers, but once we have made good friends with people, they become an extension of us and so we talk easier. 

so that was my take on introversion...why, well someone again questioned that I am not an introvert, and someone really senior at work, in a 'culture' session, said that there is no place for introverts in the firm. and that pissed me off, what he was saying is there is not place for shy people, but then him being so senior, can't attribute this to his ignorance and let it go. Well most imp person in tech in blr, you shall not gain my respect!!!

wow for thoughts and ramblings, this is already quite long. 

anyways point wise now

1. young people (including when I was in that age group) are more concerned about their privacy and letting info out and holding on to stuff and more controlling and what not. saw this in a couple of instances this week, someone finally made me friends on fb, but still nothing is shared. and someone in a causal social fun event wanted everyone to behave and all...I used to be like that, always wanted to hold on to my secrets, no one knew about her for the longest of times, and always wanted some discipline when i used to lead. Not sure when i changed and why, well for the first secrecy thing, it was conscious, i decided to let go, for a period of time everyone around me knew everything about me, and guess that was a bit extreme, but today a lot of people know a lot about me and that has helped make stronger friendships. on the other part, the controlling factory, guess it was just experiences i guess. the thing with controlling something is that you have to hold really tight something to control it, but things still escape out, and that makes you feel irritated and you react in angry ways...it doesn't help at all...better is to have a few key rules, and thats it. these rules are the ones that matter the most, and which handle the most grave consequences...let the rest pan out. The environment will be more relaxed, and because there are few rules, people kind of feel morally responsible. 

2. its amazing how people can be so predictable sometimes, or maybe experiences enable you to predict some people so well...I was able to predict someones moves so well today was surprised. I don't know if there are just a limited number of stories and limited number of moves in the worlds, but man, someone surprise me...do something which I haven't anticipated...all the same moves, all the same games!!!

3. So the eternal question of what should you do...what you love or what you are good at, well I am doing ok at something that i neither love, nor am good at. but thats a different thing. if what you love is what your are good at, then ur golden. In my case I don't know that yet!

4. Being different is something I have always done, its a driving force behind everything i do, be different, think different, live different. I don't think it started out because I just wanted to be different for the sake of it, but really because i had come from a different background, was differently natured and like different things. But yep, a contributing factor was also the want to stand out. anyways, i lost my way for sometime but trying to get back there. 

what i wanted to say and maybe this deserves a post of its own is that thinking that you develop from wanting to be different helps. being different in the frist place, doing things differently in itself brings you attention (many time negative, but as i always say infamy is a way to being famous), it brings something fresh, unexpected and so the buzz is always inbuilt, its different so it has to be original. The risks are higher, risks of rejection, but once you start on that path, you kind of get a hang of how much you can push the rubber band before it snaps. And most important is that as long as you are not being different for just the sake of it, as long as there is a logical rational reasons behind it (or you can conjure one up), people take it as, 'oh well he tried something diff, and failed' and you can take solace to it as well.

So last line, be different, not for the sake of it, but because thats the only way to stand out for urself and making the world more colorful. else everyone everywhere would be just the same!!!

was itching to write but clearly just wanting to write and writing well are two different things, and this time the first didn't lead to the second. :(

crests and thaws!!!

was thinking about Yuvraj Singh, how life takes a turn, a year back he was at the highest point in his career and just some time later, struggling to just to stay alive. Then started looking at the trend and realized that he has always had an ups and downs life, just before the world cup he was out of the team and well right from the start of his career, one thing or the other.
and I have known people like that, people who always have ups and downs. People who'd seem normal, everyday to most, they live through such highs and lows...and was wondering why?
and now my thoughts are getting a bit muddled, so the post shall be too this point on.
well one thing that i know about these people is that they all are never satisfied, they all look out for more, and not in a negative sense, but they never compromise with what they have. For some its a very consicous effort, for some (like me) its very unconscious. We never get peace till we get what we wanted. Some can put what they want in words, some like me 'just feel it', and cannot put in words.
But they are all the same, they unconsciously want something, and consciously never settle for anything else. and because of this they keep on taking risks, they keep on doing things that most other satisfied people would not. They grab at those opportunities where success rate would be less...or like me where it really is zero (stupidity i know, but kya kare). They'd risk making the same mistake, hoping against hope that that 1% chance of success might actually come true.
These people hurt more, they suffer far more, and many times they also become immune faster...but these are also the people who feel euphoria in the true sense. These are also the people who touch the boundaries of that awesome euphoric state, simply because their pursuit of what they wanted was so deeply seethed, so unconscious and so pure, that when they do achieve, its takes over everything else.

And i also believe that these are the people who have more of a chance to change the world, make a dent!

Its a painful journey, but i have always believed at the end of the journey, whether you achieved it or not, you might be bitter, but you won't be guilty.

PS: published a post in a half awake state yesterday, and took it down today. First time i did so, re read it, in addition to the hundred spelling mistakes (apparently the space on the iPad keyboard doesn't function too well), it was a really negative post, and so not me. But it did come from me and i'd blame that on my fickle state of mind now a days. But that apart, the blog was never meant to be about me, to some extent it is, but one thing it was not and will never be is negative.

oh and the title of the post, a term we came up with long time back...and has shaped a big part of my thinking. Because of this term, for the longest of times steadiness bored me, and to some extent it still does.